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author: ~demure
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title: Self Accountability
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descripion: A User Guide to help with Self Accountability
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category:
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- main
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# A User Guide to Self Accountability
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## Preface
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> Everybody makes mistakes.
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> Everybody has bad days.
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> Everybody can grow.
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Stuff happens -- we all know this.
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As part of a community it is key that we identify our mistakes and strive to not repeat them.
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Yes, this takes time, effort, and courage to:
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* identity issues
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* figure out changes
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* implement changes
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* take accountability
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We all know that no one is perfect, and that self growth will take time; what is important is that *everyone* strives to better themselves.
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## Identifying Issues
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### Self Identifying
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Occasionally we are able to notice how a thing we have said or done is uncomfortable/insensitive in hindsight, or how it might have easily been taken in a way other than we meant it to be.
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If we notice in real time, we should give a correction and handle any [Small Stuff](#small-stuff), or escalate to more a more [comprehensive response](#outline).
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### External Identification
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It can be difficult to self-evaluate, but in order for each of us to become better people, we have to remain self-critical in order to improve.
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How can we do that?
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1. When someone in our community brings up discomfort or labels something that has been said as problematic, take a step back.
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2. Do not take the community pointing out an issue as an attack. Instead, try to see it as a way to potentially improve.
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3. Where does said discomfort come from? Is it from a place that we may not have sufficient knowledge?
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4. Is this the first time this issue has come up? If not:
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* Have there been different contexts?
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* Why has this issue come up before?
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* What's the root cause of this repeated discomfort?
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In general, if a handful of people take issue with our actions, this should be taken as a call to review what happened.
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If other members of the community seem to consistently remark upon a specific action or behavior, we should reevaluate it.
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## Outline
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There are a few key points related to Self Accountability. While cases will vary, these five things are crucial to **Owning** our Issues:
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1. Acknowledge what happened
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2. Acknowledge our involvement
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3. Acknowledge why the issue was an issue
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4. Acknowledge that we will work on changing
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5. Apologize for the issue
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When we take Ownership of an issue by stating the above points, they don't necessarily need to be individual sentences.
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ie: its fairly simple to acknowledge our involvement while identify what happened.
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## Accepting Responsibility
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Once we have taken time to reflect on what has happened, we need to tell our fellow community members.
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Using the above [outline](#outline), make a statement and take Ownership of the issue.
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If this issue is somewhat personal, it is quite appropriate to to have one-on-one discussion(s) with those impacted.
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If the issue was public, do try to make a short statement publicly anyway, so that others are aware that the issue is being worked on.
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### Small Stuff
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Sometimes we can do Small Stuff. It's pretty quick an painless to say:
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"Oops, I'm sorry."
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Just be careful not to write everything off as small stuff.
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A good rule of thumb is that if someone else has raised our actions as being an Issue, or if its become a Pattern of Behavior, don't treat it as Small Stuff.
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## Impact
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### Why does all this matter?
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We are all part of the community.
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By Owning issues we are showing our fellow community members that we are aware of the issue, that we know a change is needed, and that we will work towards this change.
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### Goodwill
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Change will take time.
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By Owning an issue we will build Goodwill with our community, and they will be more willing to work with us as we work towards change.
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### Pattern of Behavior
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Patterns of Behavior will impact how others chose to interact with us.
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Consistent repeats of the same issues will drain [Goodwill](#goodwill), and will result in a lack of leeway.
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Building up Goodwill gives us more leeway and understanding for occasional blunders.
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## Closing
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Change is hard -- but we must try.
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